So in the car yesterday on the way to Rogers Park in Belton TX we were chatting it up. I was driving and Ellen, Caroline, and dog Bean were carpooling to go climbing for the day in the bitter bitter cold! It turned out to be a bit shorter day than usual due to it being just too darn cold. On the way back I mentioned a concept that I am a fan of and everyone was into it including Bean and I was told to mention it here…
This concept basically stems from a phrase I came up with… Dating Yourself! This has nothing to do with the touching of oneself, although it may be a related item for some. Ahem. Anyways. It also has nada to do with dating yourself as in, “I loved the band Twisted Sister back in the day.” Ahem… Anyways again…
Basically I believe that you should at least once a week totally treat yourself right, or even every day! Like my boy Agent Dale Cooper says, “Everyday, once a day, give yourself a little present. Dont plan it, dont wait for it, just let it happen.” (enter: two cups of hot black coffee and some cherry pie) However, my philosophy is a bit different. I feel that one (1), you cannot truly learn to “hook up” another human being properly if you can’t do it for yourself first. This can be said for another formentioned topic that we need not go into here, again. Two; I feel like we dont treat ourselves with the respect and awe that we should! Especially in a profession like teaching where all of your mental and physical energy is directed outward, we need to refuel and re-energize! I feel like I personally do not get burnt out as long as I keep refilling the vessel that I am constantly pouring outwards from.
Tips on dating yourself:
1.Go Overboard. Go big! Take yourself to that favorite expensive restaurant and hook it up! Dont worry about time, money, etc. Treat it like a date with a significant other and impress yourself!
2.Spa Time. On a night alone trap yourself in the bathroom. Hot bath with salts, music, glass of wine, and possibly a favorite book you have read already many times! I personally do this pretty often and its soooo good.
3. No Fear. Go out and do your favorite things that you normally reserve for doing with another. Get over fear of eating alone, movie alone, or favorite outdoor activity alone.
Nobody can ever truly know what you want at any given moment as well as yourself. Take advantage of knowing who you are and what you want and hook yourself up! Its not selfish! It will only make you happier and healthier which can only effect your local environment in a positive manner! Life is good, revel in it. Roll in it like a dog in a pile of leaves!